Winning Matters Way More Than You Want To Admit. Here’s Why.

Growing up, I had the special privilege to be a part of the “Everyone gets a trophy” Generation.

By privilege, I really mean it was a mandatory part of life I think my generation wishes to forget..

I remember one year going to a track meet in grade 6, and they had ribbons for First Place, Second Place, and Third Place. I remember it too: Red, blue and white ribbons.

Maybe 4th place got a ribbon, but I can’t quite remember.

I remember there were a few kids that went away with handfuls of ribbons, but I don’t think I got any. I just outside the top spots at 4th through 6th.

I know, surprising. I wasn’t always an athletic monster like I am now.

It sucked not getting any prizes, but it made me want to get BETTER.


The next year I came back, there weren’t just ribbons for first through fourth.

They had ribbons all the way down to 8th place with colours galore!

I remember winning a few more ribbons this year, but not anything higher than 4th place.

I was pretty excited. I went up to a friend to find out if they got any ribbons, but they had more, AND  higher placing.

My sense of pride evaporated like boiling water during Canadian Winter. Receiving a ribbon just for running didn’t feel as good as earning and winning a ribbon.

Once I finally did win a ribbon at a track meet, I was more proud of that silly thing than the multiple 8th place ones I got a few years earlier.

Winning matters. No matter what the media tries to tell you. It mattered in grade 5, and it matters now.


You know why?

Winning builds absurd levels of confidence.


Here’s the difference between competing as a kid and now. The competition isn’t always with other people; it’s now with yourself.

Truth be told, you’re your hardest competition and critic anyways (Side note, grammar win in that sentence). You’re not always keeping tabs on other people, but guaranteed you’re keeping tabs on yourself.

You are keeping track of your wins and losses in every area of your life.

You had a win in your phone chat with your mom when you didn’t blow up about her critiquing your job. You kept track of your loss when you lost the deal with your ideal client.


Worst of all, you better believe you’re keeping track of your wins/losses when it comes to health and fitness.

It’s probably even been a few years since you’ve had more wins than losses. You might consistently hit the gym, but you are equally as consistent with 1 (or 4) too many beers during the week with your friends after your rec league soccer game.


So if you’re counting, it probably seems like you are losing more often than you’re winning.

You gained 10 lbs over Christmas. Points lost for Gryffindor!

You missed going to the gym this week. Point Lost.

You ordered a large pizza on Friday because you were too tired from your crazy week of work to make any food…. And you had no fresh food in your fridge. 2 Points Lost.

Oh, and you ate it ALL by yourself. Minus 10 points.


By your count, you lost.

Confidence zapped.

Will to compete: Zero.


Listen. You can either wallow in your defeat, OR you realize this is your life. YOU get to decide the rules of the game.

It’s time you changed the scorecard.

Who said that you need to keep score with those metrics above?

What if you changed the scorecard so that it made winning more frequent? Say, every day?

By creating daily wins, you build your confidence every day, leading to bigger wins, and eventually your ultimate goals.




You see the importance of winning when a sports team goes on a winning streak. All the players are smiling, they make simple plays really well, and they’re able to relax.

But when you see the same team go on a losing streak? They start second-guessing plays, they are more tense, and they make really silly mistakes.

Same team, two completely separate outcomes.

If you watch hockey, you might see the perfect example of this would be the Edmonton Oilers.

They have some of the best players in the National Hockey League, yet without finding ways to win, they will continue to flounder with frustration, unreached potential and very, very angry fans.

On an individual level, when an athlete goes through a slump, they don’t rebuild their confidence with big wins like getting a hat trick, shooting multiple 3 pointers, or 3 birdies in a row.


They build their confidence by keeping track of the little wins in their game.


For a hockey player, this means that he makes simple passes to his teammates, he keeps his feet moving to get in position to make a good play, and he shoots the puck when in close to the goal.

He doesn’t do these all at once, but he focuses on one piece, and then once it gets reincorporated into his game, he works on the next piece of his game.

By doing these individual pieces successfully, he has small wins, leading to bigger wins, which eventually leads to his confidence being restored and eventually giant wins.



Like I said, you’re about to change the scorecard. There’s no reason that you need to focus on the big wins when they are just the result of small wins.

It’s time to keep track of small wins.

Have your training on point, but need to nail your nutrition?

Your small wins could be tracking your food, having vegetables at EVERY meal, Having protein at every meal, drinking a cup of water before you have any food.

Want to dial in your workout routine?

If you’re inconsistently working out, start by moving for 5 minutes, or doing 10 push-ups, or 10 lunges. Do this consistently, every day, building confidence/small wins. Then, you’ll tackle bigger challenges, in turn creating bigger wins every day.


It doesn’t matter if your 15 or 50. Winning matters, even if you’re not a competitive athlete. By changing your scorecard, and improving your odds of winning, you will win more frequently and get that absurd confidence that makes fitness easier.